A survivor’s plea to end child marriage | Payzee Mahmod | TEDxLondonWomen – YouTube

A survivor’s plea to end child marriage | Payzee Mahmod | TEDxLondonWomen


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Payzee Mahmod was a normal teenager, idolising pop stars and pursuing her education. But her childhood was stolen from her when, at just 16 years old, her parents coerced her into marrying a much older man. Lacking the knowledge, power and language to protest the marriage, Payzee hoped another adult or professional in her life would intervene, help her and stop the marriage. Tragically the marriage went ahead and Payzee turned to self-harm and small acts of rebellion, to try and escape. But then everything changed. Her sister Banaz left her own abusive child marriage andmoved back in with their parents. In January 2006, after months of rumours and death threats, Banaz went missing. Three months later, her body was found in Birmingham – her father, her uncle and 3 other Kurdish men were tried and sentenced to life imprisonment. When Payzee turned 18, she got divorced and arranged Banaz’s funeral – all in the same month. Now she is speaking out on behalf of herself, her sister Banaz, and every child at risk of child marriage, to demand that the current law in England and Wales which shockingly allows marriage from 16 with parental consent is changed and that child marriage under the age of 18 becomes a crime. A survivor of child marriage, who lost her sister Banaz in a tragic “honour” killing, Payzee’s focus to prevent so called “honour” based abuse and child marriage could not be more personal. A Kurdish immigrant, raised in London, with a successful career in the fashion industry, she uses her voice to speak out as a survivor – not a victim – and has made it her mission to be a changemaker, helping to tackle these harmful practices. As an IKWRO ambassador and campaigner, her story and experiences have reached international audiences, including the Kurdish community. She has spoken widely on the need for changes to the laws surrounding child marriage and “honour” based abuse across radio, television and newspapers and met with government officials and the Home Office to explain first-hand why change is needed to finally make child marriage a crime. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx


  1. Banaz is so proud of you. You made it. Live for the both of you. Succeed for the both of you. Find happiness for the both of you. Show them you made it , and will not be destroyed by their monstrous acts. God bless you. I’ve never admired a human so much.

  2. It’s so bad that honour based crime is so normalised in the Middle East that people would rather kill their own children than have them bring “shame” to the family name

  3. This still happens in my country , apparently if you passed 18 years old you are considered as old to be asked for marriage . I can’t understand why mums agree with this , because i will never agree to do this to my daughter .

  4. Thank you for your boldness. The man who thought this was cool in the 7th century should be abolished yet remembered for heinous crimes that represent all those who have done this regardless of time or location.

  5. This is just a question. Do you believe that because England has become much more “Muslimcentric” that even non muslims are willing to turn a blind eye to what is taking place?!! As far as I am concerned, the teachers, the social workers – anyone who did not take a stand when they knew what was going on is guilty of a crime.

  6. "How can you help me??" her deeply desperate question to the policeman just days before being brutally murdered, still pierce my heart.. that was Banaz's plea to the whole of humanity after living in constant fear for years.. No one could save her..😢

  7. شي محزن ان الى الان في بنات صغار يمرون بنفس معانتها عندنا ولا احد ممكن يساعدهم لعنه على بؤس حياتنا بس

  8. It is ironic that liberal UK laws tolerate the ultra-conservative archaic ideas of child-marriage because they liberals want to be tolerant. Modern society must choose ethics over tradition.

  9. Her community, her co-religionists that don't want "westerners" to interfere, the British authorities, and British political parties that don't interfere with these things in order to have a political gain, are complete and utter failures. Clowns, all of them. Their faith, their honor, their "tolerant" principles, their fear of being considered racists or something like that. Buffoons.

  10. We need more, do the parents sell you or give you for money? Is this expected for culture or religion? Did your parents get 'married' this way and expect you to also? It's terrible and sad but we need more, lots of us don't understand all of this except it's sick and awful. Hope you are ok now. Does this still exist
    How long ago was this. Where are your family from originally? Please more…

  11. i watched the documentary on Banaz a few weeks ago. your sister was present in that documentary, and ive wondered whatever happened to her and your family. i did not know that you took the courage to publicly speak out and become an activist not only for your sister, but for the cause as well. im so impressed, the story has gone full circle. good job

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