Social Anxiety in the Modern World | Dr. Fallon Goodman | TEDxUSF – YouTube

Social Anxiety in the Modern World | Dr. Fallon Goodman | TEDxUSF


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  • Published On: 2021-11-16 21:10:36
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Social anxiety is a hefty burden not just on individuals, but society as a whole. Here’s the problem—the trendlines are all going in the wrong direction. Each year, more people experience frequent and intense social anxiety. Yet, we know surprisingly little about what social anxiety is and what we can do to address it. In this talk, Dr. Fallon Goodman offers three solutions. Dr. Fallon Goodman is an Assistant Professor at the University of South Florida and Director of the Emotion and Resilience Laboratory. Her lab conducts research on social anxiety, key ingredients for strong social relationships, optimal ways to cope with daily emotions and stressors, and strategies to foster happiness and well-being. Her research draws on her years as a clinician, including at community outpatient clinics, pediatric medical units, and her doctoral internship at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Goodman is passionate about disseminating science to the public. She has published numerous peer-reviewed articles and co-designed two books for National Geographic. In her first year as a professor, she won a new researcher award from the University of South Florida and an early career award from the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at


  1. Keep repeating to urself that u don’t care about what gonn happen or what em peoples think cuz u are ready no matter what and act like it. In the beginning u r gonn feel like it’s not you and ur still gonna feel anxious if not more that usual but if u stick it’s gon be part of u and every new day will be easier .

  2. Bro ik that No one is going to read this but, social anxiety has torn my life apart. I dropped out of school, can't even get a job cause of how shy I am. I wish it would just all end, but i want to beat this thing i can't let this ruin me. I don't want to die without making something of myself I can't keep living like this, and soon my family is gonna give up cause they tell me everyday to get a job or my GED its like I'm trapped in my room. Now all I do is smoke weed and play the game, im even shy to be in a big party on the game with people that I can't even see. My life is just sad I really need help before its to late. I'm 19 btw I try to talk to new people on the game to make it better but I thinks its just making me more stubborn, I need help please.

  3. I’m wondering if SAD is actually just a rational response to an irrational culture and social environment. Perhaps they should rename it SAR – Social Anxiety Response. The word “disorder” implies there is a normal state of mental health.

  4. I have social anxiety. It's because I have a birthmark on my face and I get bullied because of it and it's a big deal for me because it becomes my biggest insecurities. I don't want to be in place that has a lot of people, I can't enjoy when I'm in public because I'm busy thinking what people might think about me. I'm scared of being judged.

  5. I have been trying to talk to my parents about this for ages but they dont believe me.Honestly,I had more understanding from my teachers and my home room teacher is trying to get me to a doctor…I just hope at least a paper from a professional will prove my parents Im not just lying or trying to get attention

  6. One of the most cathartic portrayals of social anxiety, to me anyway, is the ultra-short film Robert Pattinson made about trying to get a hotdog in NYC. While there are definitely elements played for laughs, and I'm not diagnosing the man, it feels WAY too intense and close to home.

    The way he only leaves his hotel room as a last resort. Covering up with sunglasses. He can't bring himself to hail a taxi or just ask someone where the hot dog place is. The way he feels like everyone is watching and judging him. And the whole time, there's this FRIGHTENINGLY accurate (to my symptoms) constant inner dialogue which swings wildly between frantic and critical.

    It's like 2.5 mins long, but I've never seen anything that so accurately describes what it's like when I have to leave the house for food.

  7. I'm 14 and I'm pretty sure I have this I mean my counselor told me that it's very likely that I have it, but I would rather stay in my room all summer then go out with my friends once, when I joined JROTC and went to my first military ball I literally almost had a panic attack I think it seemed and felt like nobody that I knew was there and I was just there alone but of course I found my friends later on. Also when I went to my drill competition I was literally with my friends but I felt so alone for some reason like I just couldn't talk and I purposely removed myself from them, and I felt like I was kind of killin the mood because I wasn't as happy as everybody else and I just started crying lmao.

  8. I also can relate to you guys and gals on my social anxiety I tend to ignore people and conversation specially at work and just stare at people thinking in my head I shouldn't be like that to them or my self it hard some times you'd like to greet your co workers say hi or ask about there day or at at least be acknowledged or them greeting you back by name I work around similar people and it got to the point where you come in and you over hear some one say there the weird person it sucks be that person I'm the only one like that to I feel spotted out they'll even put me on my own to work by myself because I don't program with them now that they know and I feel bad that its like that 😞

  9. Most times persons with social anxiety are empaths. Controlling your thought about what other people think is very difficult. Rejection. We also can easily sense negativity. For me, once I feel this I cannot be at that particular place.

  10. This is too simple, and quite disappointing coming from a dr. Social anxiety is not something you just get; like a flu. I think she is missing one of the most important things in this talk; why do we get social anxiety? It's not something that's just there. It is a reason, and that reason often comes from childhood. Usually it's one of our caregivers or someone close to us who have rejected us to the core, who has rejected our true self – so we get trauma from that rejection, and carry it everywhere. If my close ones could not love me, then strangers must hate me.

    And you not only feel like you're constantly scrutinized by others, you're scrutinizing yourself – constantly asking – Why wasn't I good enough to be loved? Why did my this and this person reject me? We feel that we're fundamentally wrong. And that everyone can see it. Social anxiety is often complicated. Some have even developed complex ptsd from it. This is not something you just get and you're unlucky – it's a emotional developmental challenge. It's not a diagnosis – it's a lack of basic needs.

    And the only thing that can help with that is healing work – with a therapist or someone who knows how to truly help. There is some great points here, but it's lacking the fundamental why.

  11. I never really had social anxiety, it was when I started getting bullied in school from a young age by kids and classmates! I lost alot of confidence and it made me not trust people. As I got to High school it got worse, I had alot of fake "friends". They would be very two face, toxic and put me down. Now I'm just careful with who I talk to and I'm only comfortable around certain people, that I don't think will cause me any harm.

  12. Anyone here interested in having a video chat someday? I'm also suffering from S.A.D. and It makes me look and feel weird when I have to talk to a stranger. I would like to talk to someone dealing with the same, I think it would make us both feel better. No judgment, we'll both act as we'd do in a real situation. FWIW I even hesitated to write this comment.

  13. Is It weird to tell people I have social anxiety disorder? I told my brother that I told my coworkers about it, and he acted like that was the most craziest, embarrassing thing ever. I feel as though telling people beforehand will make them understand why we act the way we do.

  14. Many TED talks are ok and meh at times, even about social anxiety. Now i see Dr.Goodman having this speech, entering my brain, hitting my soul and i don't see much appreciation in the comments. I think that was one of the best TEDs speechs i've seen, thank you dr.Goodman

  15. For very long i had mistaken my social anxiety for being an introvert. I thought enjoying with others isnt my cup of tea because thats how introverts are, prefering to be lonely instead of being a part of social gatherings. But deep down i never wanted/want to be lonely, i want to talk with others enjoy parties be free about expressing myself. Then lately i thought about facing this thing and doing some research on what exactly it is thats going on with me. Then i found that i might not actually be an introvert. Its more about being socially anxious, always thinking about how to react so that others would consider me to be cool. Because of this i never could build good relationships with anyone, felt useless and that noone except my parents cared about me. I still suffer through this. It hampers my productivity and ability to be happy.

  16. I agree that early detect help the people with mental illness
    I have had SAD from 10 or younger, but no one around me thought i have illness although i couldn't go school
    identified my illness when i was 23 years-old
    this illness completely trashed my life
    what we can do is knowing mental illness accurately, just doing this help people with it and yourself because there is a chance to have mental illness for everyone
    it's late after you or someone close to you have

  17. Yesss! There's always been that doubt in me that I couldn't truly have social anxiety because I actually enjoy being in the spotlight. I may totally freak out if I have to do small talk/talk to people in general but I have no problem whatsoever with being on stage/singing karaoke. Those are 2 entirely different situations. It's great to know that apparently other people with social anxiety feel similar.

  18. So glad that I came across this video. My focus is on helping people with social anxiety, and even amongst other mental health professionals I find that social anxiety is misunderstood and not taken seriously enough. Thanks for bringing attention to this, Dr. Goodman.

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